The Status of Parents in Islam

BONA FIDE · 05-31-2008, 03:58 PM

All religions and all societies have given parents an honorable status. From a purely material viewpoint, we find ourselves indebted to our parents, particularly our mother. She not only nourished us in her womb, but went through pain and suffering. She loved us even before we were born. She toiled when we were totally helpless infants. She spent sleepless nights caring for us. Our parents as a team provided for all our needs: physical, educational, psychological, and in many instances, religious, moral, and spiritual. Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully. In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail. The Qur'anic commandments, as well as the sayings of Prophet Muhammad guide us in this matter. The parent-child code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by divine command.

References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad -Peace be upon him- on this subject. I will first quote some of the Qur'anic verses here:

And We have enjoined upon man concerning his parents - His mother beareth him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years - Give thanks unto Me and unto thy parents. Unto Me is the journeying. (14) But if they strive with thee to make thee ascribe unto Me as partner that of which thou hast no knowledge, then obey them not. Consort with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who repenteth unto Me. Then unto Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what ye used to do - (15) [ Luqman 31 ]

According to the above verse, gratitude to God and to parents go hand in hand. Gratitude to God is incomplete without showing gratitude to one's parents. Since being grateful to God is a form of ibadah (worship) which earns heavenly rewards, it can therefore be said that being grateful to one's parents also earns heavenly rewards.

Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. (23) And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little. (24) [ Al-Isra 17 ]

And serve Allah. Ascribe no thing as partner unto Him. (Show) kindness unto parents, and unto near kindred, and orphans, and the needy, and unto the neighbour who is of kin (unto you) and the neighbour who is not of kin, and the fellow-traveller and the wayfarer and (the slaves) whom your right hands possess. Lo! Allah loveth not such as are proud and boastful, (36) [ An-Nisa 4 ]

Thus, God has enjoined on us to show kindness, respect, and humility to our parents. We are commanded to do this, even though they may have injured us. The only exception to the above command is made in the following verse

We have enjoined on man kindness to parents; but if they strive to make thee join with Me that of which thou hast no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what ye used to do. (8) [ Al-Ankaboot 29 ]

Some of the traditions of Prophet Muhammad -Peace be upon him- and of the learned members of his family, about our responsibilities toward our parents are quoted here:

"Paradise lies under the feet of the mother.

According to a reliable tradition, it is related that a man came to Prophet Muhammad -Peace be upon him- and asked him to whom he should render kindness. The prophet told him to be kind to his mother. Three times he put the same question to the prophet, and three times he got the same answer. When he asked the question the fourth time, he was told to be kind to his father, indicating that the mother's right took precedence over that of the father.

Let us pray to God that He guide us to be respectful, kind, and obedient to our parents, and that we continue to show them humility regardless of the power, position, wealth, and influence we may possess. Let us also pray that we be patient, kind, thoughtful, and friendly with our children, as we guide them through their lives, and that we discharge our responsibilities towards them as required by our religion, so that God may be pleased with us, and may He Bless and reward us, both in this world and in the Hereafter; Ameen.

waltky · 06-18-2008, 02:51 AM

Then why aren't the parents informed??...

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Barely old enough to drive, one Afghan teenager was about to take his last ride, video shows. And packed into the back of the battered car are pounds of homemade explosives. The adults around him have spent months preparing him for this: A car bomb attack on a coalition convoy in the mountains of Afghanistan, CBS News correspondent Sheila MacVicar reports.

That was to have been the fate of the 14-year-old, who is now sitting in a prison cell of the Afghan intelligence service. A few weeks ago, Shukirullah was at a madrasa, a religious school, across the border in Pakistan, studying the Koran, when his teachers told him he was ready to graduate.

"The Imam told me they were sending me to Afghanistan to become a suicide bomber," Shukirullah said through a translator. "I told him I wanted to go home to see my mother." Without the knowledge of his parents, the boy was sent on a journey far from his family, across the border to the Afghan city of Khost. "I was afraid," Shukirullah said. "I tried to escape, but there was no way."

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